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For Kevin |
Several other friends of his, one of which is his cousin, suggested that we do not visit him until he is well into his rehabilitation, since he can only communicate through a mouse and screen with his left hand. Furthermore, one of his friends that I spoke with recently recommended that I don't even try to send him flowers, but rather just "pray for him" at this point. An atheist should pray for his friend lying helpless in a hospital? Well, Mother Carey's chickens, isn't that an effective measure!
While I agree that I shouldn't visit him in person, I am totally taken aback by this suggestion. It leaves me upset and even undignified— the thought of him lying in bed without me even sending flowers and a note that I am thinking about him.
Tomorrow, I am going to have to speak with a few of these people again about sending him signs of life, this time a little more stern and assertive than before. I have come to learn that this happens rather frequently: friends and relatives erecting an artificial fortress around a loved one who experiences a tragedy such as this. I do forgive them for keeping his best interests (and his sanity) in mind, but sometimes an inner circle of relatives and friends just do not handle situations as they should. It is time for me to punch through that barrier a little, for the noble effort of reaching out to my closest friend.
I have been meditating during this first and most painful phase of my friend's life-altering event. At first I thought that I was meditating to send positive energy his way, but gaining a foothold on reality, I realize that this meditation is more for me than anyone else. A very wise acquaintance mentioned last week that I should cope with this sudden tragedy and the long recovery without compromising my own well-being. It was quite comforting to hear this from another voice other than my own.
On a fresher note, I have made considerable progress in my personal time management, allowing me more time to blog and write technical articles. Expect me to be more prolific now with at least two updates per week, just like old times. :winky:
Charles Koechlin: La Méditation de Purun Bhagat, Op. 159:
Tone poem from The Jungle Book
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Flowers froKevin
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by NJCHouse |
posted April 10th, 2007 around 12:29 AM
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Insert Comment Here hi!! I would definitley send flowers and a card to Kevin if thats what you want to do.
He needs to know you are thinking of him,and will visit him as soon as he is up to it!
Please call me soon~ Love, MOM
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